By Gail Davvis-Carter (ListenGive Writer)
Mother as defined by the Merriam Webster Dictionary is “a female parent”. One would think by now this would have been updated.
I lost my mother not too long ago. I cannot describe the feeling in words. It is a feeling so strong that you don’t know where you are in the moment you hear the news. You don’t know whether you are going or coming nad your body loses control. Whether you are close to your mother or not, rest assured if you ever lose her, you will feel a void unlike no other. A mother nurtures the family. She knows the right words to say when no one else does. Have you ever experienced those times whether you are a child, college student or out of college, that no one understands what your going through and you pick up the phone and before you can utter a word, your mother knows something is not right in your world? Many want to say our mothers are our friends. A mother to some degree is never really a friend, but your comforter who understands you more than you may understand yourself. So she seems like a friend, when in actuality she is our Nurturer, Guide, Coach, Healer, Advisor and so much more.
I remember one evening I had just come in from traveling, and my mother called me and said how is your dog. I am saying to myself why is she calling me about my dog. I know the dog had been sick, but she was doing amazing at that time. My mother went on to say your traveling a lot lately and I think your dog and husband miss you. I was so in my head about work I needed to finish, I kind of blew off what she said in that moment. After the call, i was just downstairs getting out of the taxi from the airport. When I reached house door a few feet away, I was expecting my husband to be happy there to greet me. Instead he was in the room watching television. The dog was literally laying at the edge of the door. I narrowly missed hitting her. As I opened up the door slowly to greet her, and slid my bags down to the floor, the visual of seeing my husband in the room watching television saying hello from his chair, led me to think, “how did she know”? My husband was used to my travels oh so I thought and taken that for granted. The dog I thought would have been, too. The same year my mother passed away. I have never forgotten that call, because she was right. I mean I knew I had traveled a bit more than usual. But again, the visual of my husband saying hello from his chair in the room had me realize that he was used to me traveling and being away, and that did not sit well with me as previously though in mind I would feel. Seeing our dog at the door was a usual happenstance. But this time was different. My husband echoed the words, the dog really missed you. I knew it was him saying the same thing. I slowed my travel that year. I slowed myself down as well. Its not that anyone would not have seen I was overworking myself. It was that my mother had that special knowing all mothers have. She did not live with me, so how would she know what was going on. Its that six sense mothers have that guides all of us.
I think back to all the travel I was doing. Not being home, I, too was the nurturer of my home. And though, we did not have children, the dog served as our child. This has me know from a special place how important women are to Life itself. And even more, how important Mothers are to the very air we breathe.
My message to everyone, is never take your mothers for granted. I know what you are thinking, sometimes our mothers can annoy us as we become Adults. But I can share with you that when you no longer can hear her words empowering you to take care of yourself the same way you did as a child, you will feel the emptiest feeling to the core of your very soul. So when you hear her annoy you or sharing something with you, you may not want to hear, smile and say thank you mom. As there will come a day, when she is no longer beside you, but only close to you in spirit with memories of times shared.