Personal and Professional Relationships are like Trees. Those who have the capacity to be there during the great times, but unable to handle the challenging times are like – LEAVES that fly away. Others who have the capacity to be there during the great times and during the challenging times along their paths to a point are like – BRANCHES that can only handle so much weight before they break; and then there are the people who are there during the great times and challenging times all the way through and they are like – TREE ROOTS that are the foundation with one another to support, hold each other accountable, love unconditionally, respect, nurture, share their visions and know when to step back to allow each other to move forward. TREE ROOTS don’t come along everyday. We are blessed to have even a few in our lives.
The important thing is to recognize the TREE ROOTS, BRANCHES and LEAVES in your life. All relationships are important. How we LISTEN (not listen to – the LISTENING WE HAVE OF THEM) someone in their lives is very important. If you perceive them to be a certain way, you will interact with them based on that perception. We may run into them years later; we have made changes in our lives from maturity, but we will view them the same way we did the last time we interacted with them (which may be years). People can only show up the way we perceive them. We then write them off. So we will say they are a BRANCH or a LEAF. Or someone is going through something, we don’t want to deal with it because we feel our lives are in a in a better place, but then forget, we, too, came through challenging times. We write them off again. How we interact with another and we receive another during great and challenges is whether we see the TREE ROOTS, BRANCHES or LEAVES in the relationship. We are responsible for how we create each other as TREE ROOTS, BRANCHES or LEAVES. So treat each person with dignity and respect, then they are able to show up no other way in the present with you than dignified and respectful.
Have you ever noticed what happens when you treat a homeless person with respect, they internally give themselves respect and see value in themselves. Well we are able to do that with our families, friends and colleagues as well. We are responsible for the way we view people in our lives. This can either empower or disempower them and the relationship. Even the relationship with YOURSELF. Are you a TREE ROOT, BRANCH or LEAF in the relationship you have with YOURSELF? Something to think about. I will give you a hint; look at the relationships you have in your life now and look at the results you have with YOU.